As summer approaches, many families look forward to having their students back home after a busy academic year. While this transition can be exciting, it can also come with challenges as routines, responsibilities, and expectations shift. Taking time to have open and thoughtful conversations before your student returns home can help set everyone up for a smoother and more positive summer experience.
Before your student arrives home, initiate a discussion about what summer will look like. This allows both you and your student to express expectations, ask questions, and avoid misunderstandings. Whether it’s about work, curfews, travel plans, or family time, getting on the same page early can prevent conflict later.
Your student is likely returning home with new experiences, independence, and perspectives. Recognizing this growth is key. Rather than reverting entirely to pre-college rules, consider how expectations can evolve to reflect their increased maturity and autonomy.
Summer is a great time to clarify responsibilities within the household. This might include chores, contributing to meals, helping with siblings, or maintaining shared spaces. Be clear about what is expected, while also inviting your student to share what they feel is reasonable.
Many students use the summer to work, take classes, intern, or simply recharge. Have a conversation about how they plan to spend their time and what goals they may have. Supporting their ambitions while setting realistic expectations can help them stay motivated and balanced.
Boundaries around things like curfews, guests, and communication are important, but so is flexibility. Collaborate on guidelines that respect both your household needs and your student’s independence. Being willing to adjust as the summer unfolds can make a big difference.
The most successful summer experiences come from ongoing communication. Check in regularly, listen actively, and be open to feedback. Creating a space where your student feels heard and respected will strengthen your relationship and help navigate any bumps along the way.
Summer at home is an opportunity to reconnect, create memories, and support your student during a transitional time in their life. By setting clear expectations and maintaining open dialogue, you can build a foundation for a meaningful and enjoyable summer together.

Amber Sorenson
Parent Ally